Afraid to voice grief

I have found with the rating system that I no longer want to explain any griefs I have with other players.
For instance in one game I was slightly bigger than the other 3, and as if on cue they all turned on me and wiped me out. I then voiced my grief that they took 28 terrs in one turn. And left it at that.
Subsequently I have now gone from a 4.8 to a 4.7 with 2 of the 3 players rating me and rating me very poorly. All I asked was why pick on me?
I think the ratings system is great but it is stopping me from wanting to chat to other players.
For instance in one game I was slightly bigger than the other 3, and as if on cue they all turned on me and wiped me out. I then voiced my grief that they took 28 terrs in one turn. And left it at that.
Subsequently I have now gone from a 4.8 to a 4.7 with 2 of the 3 players rating me and rating me very poorly. All I asked was why pick on me?
I think the ratings system is great but it is stopping me from wanting to chat to other players.