abusive PM's, what are our options

by **owenshooter** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 5:02 pm

eventually, we all get involved with someone in a game, that spills over to PM's, and it can get nasty. however, at what point does the banter go from being funny, playful, a bit nasty, to just being a bit too abusive. i received the following PM's from a member of a respected clan, after i requested that he remove a 1 rating he gave me for attitude, in a game me and my partner beat him in. we were challenged by his partner while playing members of their clan in another game, and were playfully talked mega-trash to until we joined... we responded in kind, had a nice bout with them, destroyed them, and then i received a 1 rating for my attitude in the game. yes, we talked trash, and they responded. but whatever, that's fine, keep the rating. but at what point are PM's so abusive that you can ask a mod to step in? can you receive a ban for abusive PM's? i myself have sent out more than a few nasty PM's, but they are always argumentative and not childish as these PM's are. these PM's are not affecting my life, i am just wondering when abusive is too abusive. does anyone have any input on this? PM's follow and the game is http://www.conquerclub.com/game.php?game=2704430 :

abusive member wrote:And yet you are suck a F-Word<edited by wacicha> loser, you continue to respond...

abusive member wrote:Knowing men doesn't make you one. You are still a worthless piece of s-word<edited by wacicha>.

abusive member wrote:How pathetic is must be to be you. Do you get a handicapped tag?

abusive member wrote:P-word<edited by wacicha>

abusive member wrote:Man, I have to go back to "are you f-word<edited by wacicha> serious"? You realy need to get a life. Really.

abusive member wrote:You deserve the one stupid ass. Read your abusive game chat. I hope you have the mods look at it.

abusive member wrote:Your mothers sucks, mmmmmmmmmm......

abusive member wrote:Nice, I see you deleted you chat that started the whole thing. I still say, f*ck you but plug bandit leader

*note*-he has me n foe, and can no longer read my chat because of it. it is impossible for users to delete game chat.

abusive member wrote:Oh, one more thing I don't know about the system. How do I block pm from annoying assholes on this site?

even more ineresting, his comment in the game chat about our teams banter. funny, considering he sighted the game chat as grounds for the 1 he gave me:
2008-06-30 22:28:55 - abusive memer: This is more fun than the game.

by **wicked** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 5:07 pm

You said you wouldn't post my PMs to you anymore! [-X

by **owenshooter** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 5:10 pm

wicked wrote:You said you wouldn't post my PMs to you anymore!

ha!!!! at least i left the name off of the pm's!!!-0

by **whitestazn88** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 5:31 pm

As long as there's nothing blatantly bigoted about what they're saying, and if they're not threatening your life and family, you should just let it roll off your shoulders.

E-thuggery should not be tolerated by any means, but really, they're probably just emotional and angsty teens.

Worst case scenario: you can always just foe them?

by **trapyoung** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:25 pm

owenshooter wrote: i received the following PM's from a member of a respected clan

hahaha, since when?

by **owenshooter** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:26 pm

trapyoung wrote:
owenshooter wrote: i received the following PM's from a member of a respected clan

hahaha, since when?

their clan can't be more bottom of the barrel than our clan!!!-0

p.s.-the pm's continue to flow!!!

by **suggs** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:28 pm

Sorry Owen.

by **trapyoung** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:36 pm

control panel, rules, when 'x' pm's -> delete

problem solved and that's what a mod will say.

by **wacicha** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:37 pm

Well all the editing does knock the air from the sails, but I saw wicked's name up near the top so hopefully she is on it. If not shoot me a pm with it or just delete his like I do your--I mean nevermind

lol

by **hulmey** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:39 pm

fuk me if you think the DRS are respected, then you are handicapped!!

by **hulmey** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:39 pm

trapyoung wrote:control panel, rules, when 'x' pm's -> delete

problem solved and that's what a mod will say.

Owen, why dont you issue a clan bounty on the player

by **owenshooter** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:42 pm

hulmey wrote:fuk me if you think the DRS are respected, then you are handicapped!!

this is not a flame thread. i didn't mention any clans. and i like the guys clan, they are funny guys that amuse me... plus, when they challenge you, they accept defeat nicely (JOKING!!). anyway, just wondering if this is the sort of thing you have to control yourself or if it can hit a point when a mod steps in. i don't need a mod, i handled it through his clan leadership (eventually), which is how i thought it should be done. but what about people that are more fragile than myself, that this sort of thing might truly affect them and cause them CC related anxiety? ha...-0

by **gdeangel** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:46 pm

Don't take the bait. If you retaliate outside FW, they sound like the types that would run to a mod with your PM crying all like a doe eyed little girl with pig tails in the polka dot dress.... not worth the agrivation. Your a witty guy, take it to FW.

Rate them a 1 too, just to f*ck with them.

by **hulmey** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:48 pm

gdeangel wrote:Don't take the bait. If you retaliate outside FW, they sound like the types that would run to a mod with your PM crying all like a doe eyed little girl with pig tails in the polka dot dress.... not worth the agrivation. Your a witty guy, take it to FW.

Rate them a 1 too, just to f*ck with them.

you take your finger out of his arse now!!!

by **owenshooter** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:49 pm

gdeangel wrote:Don't take the bait. If you retaliate outside FW, they sound like the types that would run to a mod with your PM crying all like a doe eyed little girl with pig tails in the polka dot dress.... not worth the agrivation. Your a witty guy, take it to FW.

Rate them a 1 too, just to f*ck with them.

i refrained from rating him at all, because i wasn't impressed with his play and he missed a turn while playing for his partner. if you can't say anything nice... anyway, the new system prevents you from retaliatory feedback after it is shown. you can however, remove ratings, which i asked the abusive member to do... but, i was told to GFY or in mod edit terms <<mod edit: go with god's love up thine own backside: mod edit>>...-0

by **trapyoung** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:50 pm

hulmey wrote:fuk me if you think the DRS are respected, then you are handicapped!!

that's funny, how many points did you give me yesterday? not enough to truly reflect how badly you were beaten, and don't give me a sob story about not having the first turn or it was your first time on one of the maps.. accept your defeat and handicap.

by **hulmey** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 6:51 pm

trapyoung wrote:
hulmey wrote:fuk me if you think the DRS are respected, then you are handicapped!!

that's funny, how many points did you give me yesterday? not enough to truly reflect how badly you were beaten, and don't give me a sob story about not having the first turn or it was your first time on one of the maps.. accept your defeat and handicap.

LOL, stop trolling or Owen will report you!!!!

by **trapyoung** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 7:18 pm

naw, i amuse him apparently.

by **owenshooter** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 8:00 pm

and the abuse continues:

abusive member wrote:You deserve the one stupid ass. Read your abusive game chat. I hope you have the mods look at it. To quote you, hillarious! Send another Pm, and I'll file the complaint. I see why you were banned from the boards. Seek mental health attention.

even better, i am on his foe list, and he has accused me of deleting the game chat in question, because he can't see it.. hmmm... foe list... not being able to read chat in the game by me... hmmm... maybe he can figure that one out after he reads the PM i sent him explaining how the foe list prevents you from reading the game chat/posts of those on your list... wow.. this guy is truly amazing.-0

by **AndyDufresne** on Tue Jul 15, 2008 8:21 pm

If you receive extreme abusive PM's, you can always file a Report in the Cheating and Abuse forum, and a Mod/Admin will look into it.

--Andy

by **owenshooter** on Thu Jul 17, 2008 8:46 am

it has now ended with this gem... nice to have a clan leader step in and squash something, that obviously needs to be squashed. no need for mods or admins when you have good clan leaders:

abusive member wrote:I still think you are an asshole, but, on the outside chance that I may have contributed, however slightly and inocently etc etc, I withdrew the rating and removed foe.

Is that hilarious?

yes, it is very hilarious... a non-apology, apology, in which he was able to call me an a**hole in an endearing way...-0