kentington wrote: PLAYER57832 wrote:So many forced abortions???? In the US? Its actually pretty hard to get an abortion in most states.. you have to go through several hoops. Forced abortions are illegal in almost all cases. (even a minor child cannot be forced by their parent to have an abortion.. though parents can certainly put enough pressure on a child that that point becomes a legality, but not necessarily a true reality)
By forced I mean not natural. You get on people about using the word abortion, when it includes miscarriage. I was removing miscarriages from my use of the word. I don't mean the government or parents forcing someone else to get an abortion.
OK, but I think you can see why I misunderstood. Some abortions are actually forced, though not many legally in this country.
kentington wrote: PLAYER57832 wrote:Interesting phrasing of the word "pressure". Suggesting you have a test and that options are available is hardly pressure. That said, doctors are human. Some are idiots, some are outright jerks who ought to have their licenses pulled.
When I used the word pressure. I thought you would understand that they do more than suggest a test. I didn't want to go into great detail. These were three different doctors.
OK. corrected accepted. Even so, I think your experiences were unusual, unless there was more than just Downs involved.
In the case of some very serious genetic diseases, there is sometimes pressure. I don't agree even then, but there can be a very fine line between informing and pressuring.
kentington wrote: PLAYER57832 wrote: If you review the literature, blogs and just talk to people, you find that many people DO consider the idea of aborting fetus who has Downs to be very replusive. Even so, that was made as a casual statement that times and views have and do change, not a scientific assessment of views.
You say now that I would find many people who would consider aborting a child with Downs to be repulsive, but your statement was about deformed children. I don't see Downs as deformed. I was using an example to say that people today don't find aborting deformed fetuses repulsive.
OK, I probably should have clarified a bit more. I remember reading the tale of a doctor who had agonized, not because he let a child die in childbirth, but because he let her live despite her having a seriously deformed arm. In the story, he came to meet the woman later and realized he had made a good decision. The thing is, his thinking was not uncommon in that day (the 40's and even some of the 50's). I use that as a "jumping off point" basically to just counter folks like Jay who like to insinuate that this is a debate between moral/ethical people on one side and immoral/unethical or unthinking people on the other side.
kentington wrote: PLAYER57832 wrote:kentington wrote:It may have been considered humane at the time because they would have died later on through a lot of pain. I am not saying I agree with this, but it seems more justifiable than the multitude of reasons available for abortion today.
And this problem STILL exists today. Even with all of our medical advances, children still suffer and still die.
However, as harsh as that is, there is still another issue. You mentioned Down's. Down's people can have quite full and happy lives. However, there are a myriad of other conditions that mean a child will be literally relegated to just laying on a table, unresponsive or physically responsive, but not mentally responsive. To say "well, some peopel abort Downs kids" therefore there is no point to this debate is ignorant -- that is is to ignore facts and reality. I don't advocate telling anyone to have an abortion, but I say that anyone wanting to voice their opinion on this at least owes the people involved the respect to consider their real choices and options.
The real choices are to allow a child who won't function in society --- something WELL beyond Downs, being wheel chair ridden, or any of the other examples often brought up, to live.. and REQUIRING tax payers to support that child for life. Or, allowing parents to decide "enough is enough... this child is not meeting my religious definition of life". Keeping a child alive on a ventilator for life, with round the clock nursing care is extermely expensive and not the kind of life most people want, given the choice. Having surgery after surgery is expensive and gruelling.
I phrase this in the context of end of life decisions. These are things that we ALL should decide for OURSELVES. Yet, many of the same people who will say they don't want to be hooked up to a ventilator if there is no chance of recovery, etc, etc... somehow think that its perfectly OK to subject a child to nothing but that kind of life. I say its a difficult decision. For my part, I don't think I would abort a child just for that reason.. but I respect those who do take that kind of stance, WHEN it is
well thought out and reasoned based upon their ethics and values.
The further irony here is that jay, Nightstrike and a few of the others who are most vocally opposed to allowing women the right to decide this are ALSO among those insisting that medical care is optional, that society cannot pay for it.. etc, etc. Oh, yeah.. and they also want limits on birth control besides. Oh, yeah.. and they are also the first to declare that the government should not intervene in their personal decisions. (I my memory is correct, jay has come out against mandatory vaccination, for example) -- yet they want the government to intervene in the case of abortion.
I don't, never have condoned "abortion as birth control", which is essentially what the arguments are against. BUT.. I know enough to realize that that narrow view is not the primary reason people have abortions.
I wasn't getting into defending or attacking abortion. I was just saying that I think your view point was wrong by your definitions. Throughout this long post you have proved my point.
You will have to explain that one. What point do you feel I have refuted?
My point, in this thread was that names should not be published, in part because people are not willing to even bother to really understand the issues, they just want to put forward religious opinions as if they were facts or something they have the right to dictate for other people.
kentington wrote: PLAYER57832 wrote:In my grandmother's time, it was still considered humane to let die a child who would be born "deformed".. though today most people consider that repulsive. Surgery and medical advances now allow children to live who would unquestionably have died despite every effort just a few years ago.
PLAYER57832 wrote:The real choices are to allow a child who won't function in society --- something WELL beyond Downs, being wheel chair ridden, or any of the other examples often brought up, to live.. and REQUIRING tax payers to support that child for life. Or, allowing parents to decide "enough is enough... this child is not meeting my religious definition of life". Keeping a child alive on a ventilator for life, with round the clock nursing care is extermely expensive and not the kind of life most people want, given the choice. Having surgery after surgery is expensive and gruelling.
PLAYER57832 wrote: For my part, I don't think I would abort a child just for that reason.. but I respect those who do take that kind of stance, WHEN it is well thought out and reasoned based upon their ethics and values.
These show that you don't agree with the view point you posted. In my opinion you seem to claim one thing and that our views have changed today and we are so much more enlightened. Yet, none of these quotes suggest that you even find the idea of aborting a deformed fetus repulsive. -Just because you wouldn't have the abortion for that reason, does not mean you find it repulsive.
I see the point of misunderstanding now.
I can talk objectively, as a scientist, about things, admit and acknowledge that other people have the right to various views, even when I disagree.
The basic concept.. that just breathing is not the full definition of life (more or less), persists. What HAS changed is where we draw the line, partly because medical technology and advancements mean we can fix many problems that were unsurmountable before, so that some kids who might have been born "deformed" are not now, and partially because society has changed so that we now have "room" and "places" for people with various disabilities. A person in a wheelchair even in 1940 would have a difficult time supporting themselves and just "getting around". Today, while its not easy for anyone to find employment, plenty of people are able to support themselves and gain respected positions in society despite being in wheelchairs.
kentington wrote:I don't think the views have really changed much from your Grandmother's time to now in that sense. I may be missing something, but it is hard to tell because you add things in that don't always have to do with the point you are trying to make. (I am also a bit under the weather and tired) I do this at times and I am sure it makes it difficult for others.
I post when tired, too, so I give you the benefit of the doubt on this one.
The overall idea that not all "life" is really worth living, that sometimes death is really a better alternative, that idea -- persists. What has changed is where we draw that line. Each person needs to make that individually, for themselves. I don't want to get into the specifics of where to actually draw that line in this thread.. have done so elsewhere and its a very messy debate. I just say that making an intelligent choice means being able to actually discuss this issue fully.
I ALSO say that there is a very, very big difference between the discussion over where we each might draw that line for ourselves and where we will draw it for other people, particularly legally.
The individual decision is a very, very personal and difficult decision that its almost impossible to lay out in advance of actually facing the particular issues. Generally, we can say things like "I would not abort a child just because of Downs , though I would abort an a-cephalic child". However, when you get into the nitty fgritty line, its just too difficult.
The line we draw legally is much different. I don't believe we should force other people to bear children. Children are a gift, a priviliage, and they take a lot of work and effort. Death is absolutely not the worst thing that can happen to a child.
A very big grey area is the point of talking with friends, family and church members. I have talked to more than a few friends about this issue when they were in the midst of making decisions. I am careful. If there is any doubt voiced by the person, I do my best to give the potential negative ramifications of having an abortion in a factual and non-confrontational way. (think about this... be sure of..., etc, etc,). Abortions are terrible things, not to be taken lightly. HOWEVER, when it comes down to someone saying "yes, I understand.... and I still want to..". Then my reaction really depends. If I know that the person is having serious medical issues, then I just listen and maybe ask for clarification or such, allow myself to be a kid of "sounding board" for my friend. My role is just to do my best to make sure that the person is making the choice that is best for THEM. If, on the other hand, they simply "don't find having a child convenient" right then... well, I won't say I approve. I will, depending on the circumstances, try to get them to rethink their choice or may just say I don't agree... and leave it at that. I don't hate people because they have had an abortion, but I won't, say, drive them to the clinic unless it is for serious medical reasons. In a few cases, I have essentially dissassociated myself with people, though not just because they had an abortion, more because of how they talked about it or talked about having another casually, etc. See, the basic point is that this is the other person's choice, decision, not mine. MY obligation is to make sure facts are known, to do my best to make sure that the person is really thinking about this and not just doing what is easy and pretending it all did not happen. (which will inevitably haunt them later) It is to make sure that they can live with whatever choice they make... and to gently steer them toward having the child whenever possible.
The bottom line is that allowing people to make decisions we dislike is part of freedom. The alternative is not a nice world, its a world in which all of our behavior is dictated by other people, by the government whether a government backed by some religion or not.
In this particular thread, I simply say that whether someone has an abortion or not should be private information. I further state that a lot of people seem to think they have the right to dictate other people's behavior without even bothering to understand fully the other person's position .. in many cases don't even bother to get their definitions correct.
Jay, etc want to claim "religion", but ignore that people making the decision with which they disagree are ALSO following religion.. just not the same views.